Monday, May 7, 2012

Three Cute Boys and Dairy Keen

We love Dairy Keen!  The food is great (for fast food), but what we really love is all the trains.  Trains to play with, build with, watch as they run around the track overhead, play on, etc.  For these three boys the trains are the greatest things ever.  It was so much fun when Chandler and Natalie came up for a visit, we love playing with our cousin and sister. :)  Happy Day!




14 of 30

Describe 5 strengths you have.

1. Conviction of Faith and my testimony.  I know beyond doubt that The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is true.  I am grateful for my testimony and the way it guides my life.  I recognize that testimonies are fragile and can waver so easily so I work at mine each day so that it can remain strong.

2. Organization.  I am certainly not perfect at this, and as I look around my house at the piles of messes I wonder if this really is a strength.  But I often have people compliment me on how organized my children's rooms are and how organized my home is and how on top of my responsibilities I am, that to some extent it must be true.

3. Entertaining children.  When I started working at a daycare during high school I knew that I had a gift, at 16 years old I could have 20 children sitting in a room hanging on my every word.  But it wasn't until I started teaching at Challenger three years latter that I realized just how much I enjoy teaching young children and really enjoy entertaining them.  It is a natural high for me.

4. Getting things (projects - that I like) done.  I am pretty good at finishing projects that matter to me.  For example - I already have Brandon and most of Grants baby scrapbooks done through two years old, I start and finish wall decorations for Brandon and our bedroom, I stained the fence all around our yard and I assembled our computer desk.  Generally speaking I don't start a project unless I can finish it.

5. Gratitude.  I am not always terrific in telling others I am grateful.  But I do feel like I have a very grateful hear.  I recognize beauty all around me, I recognize the good deeds of others, I recognize the MANY things I am blessed with everyday, and I always feel very grateful when I recognize all the good that is around me.

13 of 30

Describe 5 weakness you have.

1. Unsympathetic.  I struggle showing my sympathy when someone is struggling, or when heartache comes.  I remember while working at Kindercare in Oregon, my director came in to tell us the bad news that one of my students mother had lost her twin fetus'.  Her twins were nearly 7 months along when they passed.  My director was so emotional and upset, as she should have been, but I was not and I wondered what was wrong with me?  That is not to say that I never feel sad or upset when I here bad news, I am not completely without sympathy, but it hard for me so show it and to be compassionate with others.  Often times crying and hugging feel uncomfortable and unnatural for me.

2. Judgemental/Critical.  I have been working on this a lot, but it is still so easy for me to find fault in others and think less of them because of it.  Even though I know I have NO room to judge and I know that my judgements are always inaccurate.  I am just as hard on myself and I am often sure that others are judging me harshly as well.  I really hate this about myself.

3. Self-Centered.  I am always looking to my needs first, the needs of my children close behind, the needs of our house, the needs of Jared, and the needs of others last.  I struggle to look around me and see what others need and then follow through, because doing so would take time away from the needs I have around home.  Jared unfortunately gets my attention last after, myself, the children, home, neighbors, callings and so on.  I know this is an area I need to work.

4. Addicted to food.  When unhealthy food that I know I should not eat is anywhere near me I really struggle to ignore it.  I will even go out of my way to find unhealthy food.  I really feel week in this area, however I have had moments, days and even weeks when I have been strong, so I know that I can turn this into a strength, with practice, effort, and lots of prayer.

5. Prideful.  To some extent we all are, but I feel like I really am.  This goes hand in hand with the judging.  It is a weakness to put yourself above another because you think you do something better than them.

This was NOT a fun post, but good just the same to reflect on some areas of needed improvement.

Sunday, May 6, 2012

12 of 30

Described a typical day in your life.

I think one of the hardest things of being a stay at home mom is that it never feels like there is a typical day.  I don't clock in at 8 and clock out at 5.  I don't have my meals at the same time every day.  I miss following my printed schedule five days a week at Challenger, I was able to get so much done.  I have tried to recreate something of a schedule, and it has helped me a lot, I just have to remind myself to be flexible with every hour of my day, because I never what surprises are in store for me on any particular day.  So my desired typical day assuming nothing out of the ordinary happens would go as follows.

6:30 -  wake up, pray, shower, dress, read scriptures, make bed, personal time for watching church media, writing in my journal, reading the Ensign or working on Personal Progress.
8:00 -  the boys are allowed out of their rooms (yes I said allowed - mean mom) we gather for family prayer, send Jared off to work and eat breakfast.  While the boys finish breakfast I unload and load the dishes.  When they finish we do "letters and numbers".  We work on flashcards, worksheets, handwriting, cutting, songs, memorizing scriptures and Articles of Faith, and learning games.
9:30 -  Fit Stop to train for my upcoming 5K while the boys go to the day care - LOVE this time of my day!
11:00 -  One, or several of the following; drop Brandon off at preschool, ASL with Grant and Ms. Mindy, Speech Therapy with Grant and Ms. Karen, visiting teaching, errands (recycling, bank, post office, shopping, etc.) or just play time at home with one or both boys
1:30 - One, or more of the following: pick Brandon up from preschool, more errands, lunch, chores around the house, walk the dogs, play outside
2:30 - One, or more of the following; read the boys a few stories, then put them down for naps, teach piano lessons, more household chores, make phone calls, prepare lessons and activities for family or young women's, work on projects (crafts, decorating, organizing, gardening, etc.) explore the Internet.
6:00 -  Make dinner
6:30 -  Eat dinner with the family (family style serving:) )  My other favorite part of the day!!
7:00 -  Play with the boys, or Family Home Evening, or go to meetings and mutual
8:30 -  Put one of the boys to bed by; brushing teeth, reading scriptures, saying prayers, reading stories, visiting, etc. etc. etc. (Jared and I take turns each night with who we put to bed, on odd numbered days I put Brandon to bed and Jared takes care of Grant and then on even numbered days we switch)
9:00 -  watch tv, update my blog, veg on the couch.
11:00 - get ready for bed, couple scripture study and prayer, personal prayer, and the inevitable but always enjoyable days end conversation with Jared.
12:00 -  Hopefully, going to sleep. :) (Right now it is 11:40 and I am still typing while Jared is reading a book outside with the dogs - midnight bedtime, yeah right, this needs to change.)

That is a very rough outline of my day, each day is joyfully interrupted by play dates with friends or family, phone conversations, doctors and dentist appointments, and everything else life can throw at you.  Keep things exciting, and unorganized :)

While I am on this topic of how I spend my days I want to share a thought or frustration I realized the other day.  With Grant's speech I read that the more one on one time I can devote to him the better off his improvements would be.  I mentioned this to my visiting teacher who just had her seventh baby a few weeks ago.  She offered (insisted) to take Brandon for me for a few hours here and there during each week so that I could focus on the one on one time with Grant.  It has been most helpful and wonderful and eye opening.  Because of her circumstances I don't feel like I can do anything else like; housework, blogging, etc, that I would like to do with Brandon out of my way, I am kind of forced to play with Grant.  While I am playing with Grant working on his speech and having so much fun with all his wonderful toys I find myself feeling guilty that I am "waisting" my time because I am not cleaning the house or crossing something off my to do list.  How messed up is that.  I wish somehow playing with, reading with, spending time with, or just listening too our children had a visible or tangible and immediate result; something so that at the end of the day I could say - look at what I did, I accomplished something.  It is silly, but still a reality.  I need to give  myself credit where credit is due and get past my check list nature so that I can really be a mom to my children.

Thursday, May 3, 2012

11 of 30

Describe 10 pet peeves you have.

1. A piece of paper with more than one color of ink, or different handwriting styles on it.  I like my lists, forms, notebooks, etc to have a uniform look.  Blue pens and all caps are best.

2. Other people, especially strangers, disciplining my children while I am right there handling the situation myself.  If I am gone, otherwise engaged, or completely unaware, then by all means go ahead and reprimand my child when he is out of line.  But if I am right there, mind your own business, I'm the mom, I'm in charge, I will handle it the way I think it needs to be handled.

3. Unprepared musical performances, especially in sacrament meeting.  Thank you for sharing your talents,  I commend you for doing so, but please make sure you will be prepared enough to be in tune and invite the spirit into the meeting, otherwise it is just a distraction.

4. When things are out of order.  Keep things in order, alphabetically, numerically, by size or by color.  For example, the boys plastic dishes are in all the colors of the rainbow, they need to be put in the dishwasher and the cupboard in the proper rainbow order; red, orange, yellow, green, blue and purple.

5. When I make the bed in the morning, then I go to fold the laundry on my bed and my boys have unmade my bed so they could play on it.

6. When Jared does one of the house hold chores and it is not to my expectations - I really need to get over this and just be grateful for when he does the chores.

7. When people look at you like you crawled out of hole because you don't know something they know.  "You don't know the date of ....," or "You don't know this song...."  how can you call yourself a human. 

8. When Jared touches me with his toes while we are sleeping.  He will often tease and ask if I want to hold toes, ooo, yuck!

9. When Jared insists on sleeping with all the doors and windows closed and with the heat on.  He wants to sleep in a very warm, cave like bedroom.  I like to sleep in an airy, chilly, open field like bedroom.  We are beginning to reach a compromise in this area, at least now we sleep with the door open. :)

10. Very loud noises that are out of my control while my children are sleeping.  For example dogs barking incessantly while we are trying to take a much needed nap, landscape/home improvement noises before 8:00 in the morning when I desperately what my children to sleep in so I can have some early morning quiet time.

Pet Peeves are such silly things - get over it Michelle, let it go and enjoy a happier life!

10 of 30

Describe your most embarrassing moment.
Which one?

Do I dare share a story that would embarrass me even more but put Jared in a glowing light?
Why not, the few of you reading this hopefully think highly enough of me that you wont be too disgusted with me after you read this.  Disclaimer - if you do not like potty talk - don't read!

Jared and I had been dating seriously for nearly two months.  He wanted me to meet his family who all live in Idaho so we planned a trip with his parents.  We would stay at his sisters house with Jared sleeping in the basement and I would be sleeping in the guest room upstairs.  I did not eat healthily while in Idaho (I never do:)) consequently my digestion was unhappy, to top it off it was my time of the month. (I did warn you.)  I was feeling sick and I thought a shower would help, it didn't.  The shower just added dizziness to my cramps and additional discomforts.  I was miserable, weak, sick, in a new place where I couldn't find anything (like a necessary plunger).  I wanted so much to make a good impression on Jared's family, instead I spent nearly two hours in a bathroom getting ready while everyone waited for me in the nearby living room.  Jared came to check on me a few times before I finally in tears requested a plunger.  It did me no good, I was too week to unplug the toilet.  I could not leave the restroom in the condition it was in or in the condition I was in, so I stayed, unsure what to do.  Jared came again and through even more tears I told him everything.  Enter my Knight in Shining Armor.  Jared told me to just take care of myself and then go lay down on my bed and he would take care of everything else.  After unplugging the toilet and tidying up the bathroom, he came in to check on me.  He sat next to my bed and while caressing my arm and hand, created a beautiful escape for me by telling me all about a beautiful beach with palm trees swaying, the warm sun on my face, dolphins jumping in the horizon, while I was laying on a hammock.  He assured me that his family (still waiting for me nearly two hours later) was just fine and that I did not need to worry about what they thought.  I was SO grateful for his compassion and willingness to see past how disgusting I felt and I am sure I was.  I was SO impressed with him.  By the time we went on this trip I already knew I loved him, I already knew it was very likely we would get married and I already knew what a great man he was.  This event confirmed my feelings.  I had a real man, a tough man that loved me - a lot!  A lesser man would have done nothing or dumped me after the trip.   I would like to say that was the only time Jared has had to come to my rescue in such a way, but it wasn't and I suspect there will be other times when I need his help.  I love knowing that he will be there, in sickness and in health. :)  He is such a great man, and I am so very lucky!!

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

9 of 30

List ten people who have influence you and describe how.
Really 10 - JUST 10.  I am getting behind on my one a day plan, because "just ten" is giving me fits.  However I suppose it has to be ten, otherwise this post would never end.  I am sure that everyone feels the same way, that there are so many people who influence us, for whom we are so grateful.  So here is my list not in any order.

Mom - I wish I had a gift for putting in to words the appreciation and love I feel for my mom, but I don't.  George Washington said it well when he said " All I am I owe to my mother.  I attribute all my success in life to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her."  I would add Spiritual education to the list and it would be complete.  However I still don't think it does justice to the influence she had on me.  I am so grateful for her.  I am who I am because of her, in fact in many ways I am her, and that's okay.  I am especially grateful that she both recognized and embarrassed the importance of her role as a mother. "Being a king, emperor, or president is mighty small potatoes compared to being a mother.  Commanding an army is little more than sweeping a street compared with training a boy or girl.  The mother of Moses did more for the world than all the kings that Egypt ever had.  Oh, you wait until you reach the mountains of eternity, then read the mothers' names in God's Hall of Fame." (Billy Sunday)  My mom's name will be in the Hall of Fame.  She, more than anyone helps me to realize just how important I am as a mother and that I have value as a daughter of God.  She is my greatest cheerleader!!  Love you mom!

Dad - If every child could have a dad like me, how fortunate would they be and how better off the world would be.  My dad spent quality time with me, taking us out on bike rides, taking us to the office, playing the guitar while I played the piano.  He brought humor and excitement to our home through story telling, water fights, hide-n-seek, and a quick wit.  He taught me patience, hard work and dedication.  He is a great example of quiet faith, I always knew where my dad stood and I knew when I crossed the line, but never because of what he said, it was because of his example.  He also taught me the joy of service.  I am so blessed to have him as my dad, because of him my mind is filled with thousands of rich memories (perhaps that is why there is no room for tedious facts, :) I would prefer to have it filled with wonderful memories).  I wish so much that I could be more like my dad!

Jared - I am truly a better person because of Jared.  Jared more than any one has taught me humility, forgiveness and patience.  It was not until I met Jared that I finally read the Book of Mormon cover to cover and gained a solid testimony of the gospel.  Jared has opened my eyes to the world by exposing me to travel, many new foods, lots of media, and his love of history.  Because of Jared I learned more about the world we live in, the famous people who shape it, the history of it, and the cultures than I ever learned while in school.  Because of Jared I know how to cook.  Because of Jared I have realized my greatest blessings of a temple marriage and the gift of becoming a mother.  We are celebrating our 11th anniversary this Friday.  I am eternally grateful he chose me and I chose him.  I love and adore him!

Grandma Johnson - I think my Grandma is the best!  She was always so good to have me, my sister and my two cousins (Jennifer and Carolyn) over for sleep overs or just over to play.  I loved walking into her house and hearing some opera or classical music playing on her little yellow stereo while she was washing the dishes by hand.  Her house always smelled yummy.  She was the best cook and baker I had ever met.  She would even make a pb and jelly sandwich special because she would cut it with cookie cutters.  Her toy closet had the greatest treasures from her latest trip to the DI, but the best toys were the sheets she would find - endless creations from a plain old sheet.  My mom was my Grandma's oldest daughter, I am my moms oldest daughter, the three of us have a LOT in common.  We all have strong opinions which we like to express, like how to properly load a dish washer. :)  We all have a great appreciation of the arts, music, dance, paintings, literature, etc.  My grandma instilled a love of books in me from a very young age because she read to me all the time while I sat on her lap in her rocking chair.  I am grateful for the legacy my Grandma left me.  And I can't forget to mention my Grandpa Johnson who was also very influential in my life, teaching me the value of hard work, self reliance through gardening, food storage and budgeting and the value of exercises.  I admire him a lot. 

Grandma Osborn - I also think my Grandma Osborn is the best - but in different ways.  My Grandma sent me a letter a few weeks ago which illustrates just how cool she is.  The first paragraph said "Don't be alarmed when you see my funeral outline that I am enclosing, but when I was down quite sick last  month with pneumonia I realized I am not young any more and at almost 93 years old I won't be around too much longer -- maybe 3 to 6 years at the most."  Please don't think badly when I say that I busted up laughing when I read that.  She just realized that she is not young any more at 93 years of age, and it is not because she is senile.  She is just young at heart.  She retired only a few years ago from running her own real estate business.  She still drives and cares for herself.  She still plays the organ in the temple.  She still goes to the retirement home to assist and care for the old people, most of which are younger than her.  She still plans and hosts family gatherings.  She still plays the piano beautifully.  She is still planning on being around for another 3-6 years.  I love my Grandma, she is a breath of fresh air.  She has a powerful testimony.  She has experienced and overcome challenges that would make others sinister, grumpy and mean.  She gave me a love and talent for the piano.  I hope I can have her attitude about life and enjoy life to the fullest like she has.  I want to be young forever too.

Paula Mortimer was my piano teacher, mentor and friend for ten years, which seems like nothing, but she was a powerful influence for good from day one.  In fifth grade we all had to write a report on our hero and the best, most meaningful reports would be chosen for the Hero assembly, because of her mine was chosen.  She was just that amazing!  Paula taught me piano which has made me who I am to everyone on the outside - "Michelle Bowman - oh yeah she's the one that plays the piano really well", it's probably how many will remember me, and that's more than okay.  I am SO SO SO grateful that I learned how to play the piano and that she was the BEST piano teacher ever!!!  But beyond piano she taught me the gospel, she taught me how to be a good person.  She loved me, really loved me and I knew it every time I set foot in her home.  I believe deeply that every child and youth needs someone outside of family that loves them, encourages them and is in a position to offer counsel and guidance.  Paula was that person for me.  I was taught so much more than piano for that short half hour a week that I was in her home, and I am eternally grateful.  I hope that I can be or have been that kind of a person for just one of my students, if I have than I feel like I have honored her.

Karie Lasson (Peterson)- When I started high school, I, like everyone else, was terrified and excited, but I was sure everything would be fine because I had a good friend to lean on.  Then for some reason (I wish I knew) that friend stopped being my friend, cold shoulder doesn't really do it justice.  I became extremely shy and reserved, but Karie (who knows why?) decided to talk to me in dreaded gym class and as a result become my friend.  In many ways she saved me.  Because of her, I gained more friends, truly great friends, than I could ever count.  Having many great friends and belonging to a group of strong, righteous, creative friends made my three years at Brighton High School so enjoyable.  Many people look on high school as a terrible time in their life, I don't.  Sure it was hard, full of drama and crazy emotions, but I loved it just the same.  Just as every youth needs a good mentor they need good friends.  I am so grateful that Karie introduced me to and gave me confidence to find so many good friends who in turn were great influences on my life.

Erin Massey - When Jared and I moved to Oregon I was once again in a place where I had to make new friends - YIKES.  I was so nervous that we would be lonely for the three years we were there.  The first Sunday we attended our new ward, our Bishop came quickly from the stand to meet and greet us after the meeting.  After he learned that we were here so that Jared could attend law school he pointed us in the direction of the Massey's and told us to go meet them.  We were slow about it, too slow for the Bishops liking, so he marched us over to them and introduced us. (Love Bishop Web for it)  And how did the Massey's respond?  Not like I probably would have, I would have been friendly, but reserved, which would not have allowed for a good friendship to forge.  But no, Erin was so bubbly and excited to meet us and befriend us.  We were invited to weekend activities with all the other young couples and families in the ward.  We didn't have time to be lonely in Oregon, we were too busy having fun with all of our new friends. :)  Once again a good friend introduced me to several great friends who made Oregon magical. so magical I didn't want to leave.  I still miss it terribly even though I know it is not the same as it was when we lived there.  I could make several more lists of people who have influenced me, just from people I had the privilege of knowing in Oregon, people who I grew to love and admire and who in turn loved me.  Now every time I hear someone mention Oregon I perk up and reminisce about the GREAT time Jared and I had there - oh how I miss it.  When Jared and I were planning to move back to Utah I told my mom I was scared to come back because I liked "Oregon Michelle" so much better than "Utah Michelle".  My good friends in Oregon helped me gained my confidence and learn to be and enjoy my Independence and I was so afraid I would lose that.

Dana Brosnahan - I entered the next phase of my life when Jared and I moved to Heber, bought a home and began our family.  Once again I was in need of new friends and a new support system.  Enter Dana to the rescue.  We were both serving in Primary together, we lived pretty much next door, and we were expecting children within days of each other, but the real friendship began after I had Brandon and she had McKell.  We began helping each other to take care of our children.  She would take Brandon in the afternoons for me while I taught piano and I would take McKell in the mornings while she ran errand, worked out and took care of her other two children.  When we weren't taking care of each others children we went on long walks together, to work off the baby fat and visit.  Our conversation covered everything.  Dana is my go to person for everything.  I often worry and Jared is convinced, that I take advantage of her, but she assures me that she feels the very same way towards me.  I admire Dana so much, she is a giver, Jared teases, that anytime we need something, (particularly relating to our children) we go to Babies-R-Dana.  She is constantly thinking of the needs of everyone else but herself.  I wish I could be so selfless.  Every new mom needs another young mom to be a support and friend.  I am grateful Dana was and continues to be one of mine.  She also helped me gain more friends within our ward.  She is so good to be the one who calls the majority of the time, because of my lame fear of calling people on the phone.  She has also kinda forced me out of my shell and helped me try new things that I wouldn't have otherwise tried.  I wish I could be as strong as her, even if she doesn't think she is strong.  She is a remarkable women and so much fun.  We set up these activities for our children, like, wadding pools, train tracks, or making a snowman, but really it is just our "adult" way of saying, "do you want to play" :).  I love that Dana like to play with the same things as me. :) 

Lastly, my sister Natalie.  You can't share a room with someone for 16 plus years, work at the same job for 1 1/2 years, and have your first child (both boys) within months of each other and not have an influence.  Natalie would be the first to say she has made many bad choices in her life, and our religion and values don't always match, but that does not change the fact that I greatly admire who she is and that I owe a lot to her for shaping who I have become.  We have shared innumerable memories and experience together and through them she has taught me a lot.  Natalie is the most accepting person I know.  In her eyes no one can do wrong.  She more than anyone has shown me what Christ like love it, she loves everyone no matter what.  I don't think she know how to judge.  This quality is what I wish so much that I could mirror.  Natalie is also super fun, she is the life of any party, kids are drawn to her enthusiasm and silliness, I have yet to meet a child that did not adore her, another one of her Christ like attributes.  It was because of her love and talent with children that I knew, the moment there was an opening at the preschool where I worked, I wanted her to fill it.  I loved being co-teachers with her more than all the 16 years we shared a room together.  But now I love being aunts to each others boys even more.  And this might sound wrong or unfair, but I am very grateful that because of some of her bad choices she has helped me gain a greater conviction of truth and of right and wrong.  Natalie more than anyone through her good and bad example has taught me of Christ, and for that I am grateful.  I am so lucky to have a sister that I can be close to, so very lucky!

While writing this post I was impressed with two things.  First how much each person matters in the world, I think of the hundreds of people who have had a direct influence on me and then the hundreds of people who had a direct influence on them, and I am amazed.  You never will know the impact you may have on someone for good by small and simple things.  Second, how mindful Heavenly Father is of me and my needs to send just the right person at the right time to help me, support me, love me, and shape me into the person I need to be.  Third I am amazed that all but two on my list are women, perhaps that is because I am a woman, but I think it is more than that.  I think it goes to show just how much influence women have.  I think it also illustrates the amazing ability to nurture women have.  Hooray for the many women in my life, wish I could list them all!!